l The family is God’s arrangement. He instituted it in the Garden of Eden when he gave the first woman Eve to the first man Adam (Genesis 2:22-24). Although a man and a woman’s union is to last forever, sometimes due to different circumstances, that is not the case. Therefore, one or both may decide to remarry. Being part of a stepfamily is all too common nowadays. Although it can be stressful for the grown-ups involved, it can be especially upsetting for the children.
Being a teenager is one of the happiest and most exciting times of one’s life, but it can also be a time of emotional ups and downs. And one of the things that can contribute to the low moments is the remarriage of one or both parents. While some teens may be ecstatic at the thought of having a stepparent, others may feel jealous, betrayed, and insecure. In LIFE AFTER MOMMA, Kiara feels the latter, and her loyalty to her deceased mother causes her to lash out at her father and his fiancée. She resolves in her mind and heart that she will never come to like the woman and spends a great deal of time letting both adults know exactly that. However, in doing so, she vents her emotional pain in some very destructive ways.
Are you part of a stepfamily? If so, what are some things that can help you to cope, even if you have legitimate grounds for complaint? First, recognize that your feelings are normal. Second, remember that no family is perfect. Third, keep in mind that meaningful, respectful communication is key in any relationship.
And one last thing–be patient (with yourself and your stepfamily). In time, the stepfamily you can’t stand today may just be the one you’ll eventually grow to love.
From my heart to yours,