“When I’m with him, I feel like I’m walking on clouds.”
“Every time I see her, my heart skips a beat.”
Sound familiar? For those of us who have been in love or are in love, we can totally relate to the above sentiments. When we meet that special someone and our hearts collide, we feel that there is nothing in the universe that can separate us from one another’s love. In my book, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, this is exactly how newlywed Catina feels. Now, consider a different scenario.
“We have nothing in common anymore. Instead of marriage mates, I feel like we’re cell mates.”
“I feel so lonely. I may as well be single.”
Same two people–different thoughts. What happened? Answer: They discovered that their mate isn’t the perfect person they initially saw through rose-tinted glasses. And suddenly, the little idiosyncrasies they used to ignore about each other are now of gigantic proportion, absolutely annoying, and driving them insane. This is the category that my older, long-time married couple Estelle and Roger of my book, THE BREAKING POINT, fall under.
While the Bible promotes a positive view of marriage (Proverbs 18:22), we should also expect problems within the marital arrangement. This is because the Bible also presents a realistic view of marriage (1 Corinthians 7:28). Therefore, there will be challenges. One of the biggest challenges we should expect is conflict. Since no two humans’ personalities are exactly alike, they will occasionally have conflicts no matter how compatible they are. And because we’re all imperfect, they will even sometimes do and say unpleasant things to each other. Misunderstandings and differences are bound to happen sooner or later. So instead of being too quick to feel that they are no longer compatible, perhaps they should try to deal with their incompatibilities in a loving way. In the end, if things still don’t work out, at least they’ll know that they put forth their best efforts.
From my heart to yours,