Today, I read an article, What type of “lovebird” are you?, in the February 17, 2014 issue of First for women magazine that I found to be extremely interesting. And since I love writing stories about relationships, I decided to write this blog. The article was based on the book, Lovebirds, by couples therapist and avid bird-watcher Trevor Silvester who explains some ways that humans show love by comparing them with how birds interact with their mates.
The article included a six-question, multiple-choice quiz for readers to see what makes their own hearts soar. Answers revealed if you are a nightingale, an owl, a peacock, or a swan. I’m a swan. The article pointed out that this bird is happiest when it is amicably swimming for hours next to its mate (which it has for life!).
Some traits of a person who falls under this category are: (1) he/she is a conveyor of affection by going out of the way to show emotional support and make others feel comfortable, (2) great harmony is found in simply spending one-on-one time with his/her loved one in a relaxed setting, and (3) he/she doesn’t need their partner to do anything extravagant to prove their love–they just need to be there for them.
In every relationship, there is going to be friction because no matter how compatible two people are, they are both still two imperfect human beings who will sometimes rub each other the wrong way. (Romans 3:23) Therefore, none of us can truthfully say that we have never in word or deed hurt someone we dearly love. Oftentimes, getting too wrapped up in our own emotions can cause us to overlook how the other person may be feeling. Communication is key in any relationship; however, there is a right way and a right time in which to carry it out. For example, it needs to be done respectfully and not when we are angry. Otherwise, it will only add more fuel to the fire. This is what happens with Estelle and Roger in THE BREAKING POINT.
Being in love and being loved are two of the best feelings in the world. Our capacity to love is a gift from our Creator–so whether you’re a nightingale, an owl, a peacock, a swan, or something else, love with all your heart because love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:8)
HAPPY READING! And as always, this is from my heart to yours,
(Lovebirds Photo-Courtesy of Office.com Clip Art)