This is my second post in my HELP YOUNG ONES WHO GRIEVE series for this month which focuses on young ones who have lost a parent or both parents to death. Although the gender may at times refer specifically to females, this information also applies to males. Additionally, whether the loss is due to death, divorce, or something else, the pain is still there and needs to be addressed.
The desire to have two parents is natural. After all, when God brought the first human couple together, it was His purpose that they have children and all of them live forever in peace and happiness. Therefore, needless to say, the ideal situation would be to have both of your parents. But what can you do when you have no choice in the matter? Some young people who live in single-parent families feel ashamed of their situation. Others feel overwhelmed by the pressures and problems of life. If you live in a single-parent household, what are some of the problems you face? Why not write down now on a sheet of paper the ones that challenge you the most?
In LIFE AFTER MOMMA, Kiara is still trying to come to terms with the reality that her mother is gone. Would you agree that much of how we deal with disappointments in life stems from our view of the situation? Now, that is not to say that we should not feel sad when we are faced with certain bumps in the road for we are all humans with certain needs and desires. Therefore, when we experience a major disruption in our own personal state of affairs, it can be extremely devastating. But as Proverbs 15:15 points out, our mood is often determined more by our attitude than by our circumstances. Many times, there may be nothing we can do to change our situation, but can we put forth greater effort to change our mental perception? Admittedly, it takes experience and practice to do so, much of which young ones will not obtain until they have more longevity in life.
So, now that you have written down your list of challenges, can you add to it some things that you can do to counteract negative feelings? If you need help, click here for some helpful tips from KidsHealth. One of the things I like about this site is that it contains advice for parents, kids, and teens. In the process, you may even find something of value to share with your parent, siblings, or someone else you know who is struggling just like you.
Whatever you do, always remember that you are never alone. Regardless of what you are feeling, open up and talk with someone about it. They may not be able to make your problems go away, but they just might be able to help you to continue facing each day one day at a time.
As always, this is from my heart to yours,