Hello again! This is my third post in my HELP YOUNG ONES WHO GRIEVE series for this month. As stated in my previous post, although the gender may at times refer specifically to females, this information also applies to males. And again, these posts also apply to those who are grieving for other reasons as well.
This post will touch on some of the feelings a young person might have upon learning that a parent is dating again after having lost the other parent due to death. To make matters worse, not only are they dating but they are also now contemplating marriage–something that is particularly painful coming after the death of your beloved parent. But in your eyes, whether the time that your deceased parent has been gone is a short or large amount of time, the last thing you want is someone else stepping in to try to fill your mother’s or father’s place.
These are just a couple of the feelings that Kiara is experiencing in LIFE AFTER MOMMA. While her father is happy, she is feeling everything but joy! Without a doubt, this situation can stir up some very painful emotions. Have you ever noticed what happens when someone pokes at an ant bed with a stick or some other object? The ants get all riled up and furiously start crawling out of the bed to the surface of the ground. Why did they do that? Because someone came along and disrupted their normal, everyday lives. And if you stay within their path, they will let you have it!
Okay, now, back to you. You are already feeling sad, lonely, and confused. Now, your parent has brought this other person into your lives, and your emotions now rise to an even more astronomical level. Not only are you also feeling insecure, betrayed, and jealous, you are downright mad! You go out of your way to be nasty to, in this scenario, the other woman, and also to your father. She has disrupted your already crumbling life further, and your father has allowed her to do so. You may even try to break them up.
Granted, it is hard enough at times to get along with our own biological family members. Therefore, it may require a great deal more effort to have a happy stepfamily, but it can be done. Please click here for HelpGuide’s link to their site for more information regarding step-parenting and blended families. It also contains other helpful information, such as dealing with the death of a parent.
Something important to remember is that whether our family is a step one or a biological one, we will have problems–but the key to overcoming them is found at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7—LOVE.
I love hearing from you. Please feel free to share your thoughts on this subject and any others in my blog. Have an awesome day!
From my heart to yours,
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