“I, _____, take you, _____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
In my novel, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, newlyweds Catina and Darryl are confronted with one of the greatest challenges they will ever face as a couple.
Marriage is challenging enough as it is, but when one mate becomes critically ill, the stress for both spouses can bring on a whole number of other difficulties. Sadly, some marriages don’t survive the stress. Even though only one mate is sick, both are deeply affected, although in very different ways. When God established the family arrangement, He said that the man and the woman would become one flesh. So what does this mean for the couple in this situation?
Most people love being independent, and there’s not a thing in the world wrong with that. All of us, if it’s within our power and ability, should strive to take care of ourselves. But wouldn’t you agree that no matter who we are, at some point in our lives, we are going to need someone (whether or not we want to admit it)? This is when interdependence comes into play. Sometimes we have to depend on others to help us. And if it is a legitimate need, there is nothing wrong with that. But if we are used to doing most things for ourselves, that might be a hard pill to swallow.
It may also be hard for one or both mates to keep a positive outlook. Dwelling too much on the past and how good or different things used to be can weaken our resolve to make the best of the situation we’ve been dealt. It’s okay to have your pity party every now and then if you need to, but try not to stay at the party too long (because if you do, you’ll miss out on all the other wonderful things life has to offer). Try to find delight in even the smallest of things and strive to continue raising each other up. Even in such a trying situation, happiness is still possible. And if the joy seems to be lost, do everything within your power to find it.