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LOVEBIRD QUIZ

LOVEBIRDSToday, I read an article, What type of “lovebird” are you?, in the February 17, 2014 issue of First for women magazine that I found to be extremely interesting.  And since I love writing stories about relationships, I decided to write this blog.  The article was based on the book, Lovebirds, by couples therapist and avid bird-watcher Trevor Silvester who explains some ways that humans show love by comparing them with how birds interact with their mates.

The article included a six-question, multiple-choice quiz for readers to see what makes their own hearts soar.  Answers revealed if you are a nightingale, an owl, a peacock, or a swan.  I’m a swan.  The article pointed out that this bird is happiest when it is amicably swimming for hours next to its mate (which it has for life!).

Some traits of a person who falls under this category are:  (1) he/she is a conveyor of affection by going out of the way to show emotional support and make others feel comfortable, (2) great harmony is found in simply spending one-on-one time with his/her loved one in a relaxed setting, and (3) he/she doesn’t need their partner to do anything extravagant to prove their love–they just need to be there for them.

In every relationship, there is going to be friction because no matter how compatible two people TBPare, they are both still two imperfect human beings who will sometimes rub each other the wrong way.  (Romans 3:23)  Therefore, none of us can truthfully say that we have never in word or deed hurt someone we dearly love.  Oftentimes, getting too wrapped up in our own emotions can cause us to overlook how the other person may be feeling.  Communication is key in any relationship; however, there is a right way and a right time in which to carry it out.  For example, it needs to be done respectfully and not when we are angry.  Otherwise, it will only add more fuel to the fire.  This is what happens with Estelle and Roger in THE BREAKING POINT.

Being in love and being loved are two of the best feelings in the world.  Our capacity to love is a gift from our Creator–so whether you’re a nightingale, an owl, a peacock, a swan, or something else, love with all your heart because love never fails.  (1 Corinthians 13:8)

HAPPY READING!  And as always, this is from my heart to yours,

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com

(Lovebirds Photo-Courtesy of Office.com Clip Art)

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MARRIAGE: THE EARLY YEARS VS. THE LATER YEARS

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“When I’m with him, I feel like I’m walking on clouds.”

“Every time I see her, my heart skips a beat.”

Sound familiar?  For those of us who have been in love or are in love, we can totally relate to the above sentiments.  When we meet that special someone and our hearts collide, we feel that there is nothing in the universe that can separate us from one another’s love.  In my book, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, this is exactly how newlywed Catina feels.  Now, consider a different scenario.

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“We have nothing in common anymore.  Instead of marriage mates, I feel like we’re cell mates.”

“I feel so lonely.  I may as well be single.”

Same two people–different thoughts.  What happened?  Answer:  They discovered that their mate isn’t the perfect person they initially saw through rose-tinted glasses.  And suddenly, the little idiosyncrasies they used to ignore about each other are now of gigantic proportion, absolutely annoying, and driving them insane.  This is the category that my older, long-time married couple Estelle and Roger of my book, THE BREAKING POINT, fall under.

While the Bible promotes a positive view of marriage (Proverbs 18:22), we should also expect problems within the marital arrangement.  This is because the Bible also presents a realistic view of marriage (1 Corinthians 7:28).  Therefore, there will be challenges.  One of the biggest challenges we should expect is conflict.  Since no two humans’ personalities are exactly alike, they will occasionally have conflicts no matter how compatible they are.  And because we’re all imperfect, they will even sometimes do and say unpleasant things to each other.  Misunderstandings and differences are bound to happen sooner or later.  So instead of being too quick to feel that they are no longer compatible, perhaps they should try to deal with their incompatibilities in a loving way.  In the end, if things still don’t work out, at least they’ll know that they put forth their best efforts.

From my heart to yours,

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com