MAXINE BILLINGS, Photographer & Author

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HAPPINESS IN A SINGLE-PARENT FAMILY?

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This is my second post in my HELP YOUNG ONES WHO GRIEVE series for this month which focuses on young ones who have lost a parent or both parents to death.  Although the gender may at times refer specifically to females, this information also applies to males.  Additionally, whether the loss is due to death, divorce, or something else, the pain is still there and needs to be addressed.

The desire to have two parents is natural.  After all, when God brought the first human couple together, it was His purpose that they have children and all of them live forever in peace and happiness.  Therefore, needless to say, the ideal situation would be to have both of your parents.  But what can you do when you have no choice in the matter?  Some young people who live in single-parent families feel ashamed of their situation.  Others feel overwhelmed by the pressures and problems of life.  If you live in a single-parent household, what are some of the problems you face?  Why not write down now on a sheet of paper the ones that challenge you the most?

LAMIn LIFE AFTER MOMMA, Kiara is still trying to come to terms with the reality that her mother is gone.  Would you agree that much of how we deal with disappointments in life stems from our view of the situation?  Now, that is not to say that we should not feel sad when we are faced with certain bumps in the road for we are all humans with certain needs and desires.  Therefore, when we experience a major disruption in our own personal state of affairs, it can be extremely devastating.  But as Proverbs 15:15 points out, our mood is often determined more by our attitude than by our circumstances.  Many times, there may be nothing we can do to change our situation, but can we put forth greater effort to change our mental perception?  Admittedly, it takes experience and practice to do so, much of which young ones will not obtain until they have more longevity in life.

So, now that you have written down your list of challenges, can you add to it some things that you can do to counteract negative feelings?  If you need help, click here for some helpful tips from KidsHealth.  One of the things I like about this site is that it contains advice for parents, kids, and teens.  In the process, you may even find something of value to share with your parent, siblings, or someone else you know who is struggling just like you.

Whatever you do, always remember that you are never alone.  Regardless of what you are feeling, open up and talk with someone about it.  They may not be able to make your problems go away, but they just might be able to help you to continue facing each day one day at a time.

As always, this is from my heart to yours,

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com


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BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH

BREAST CANCER PINK RIBBONAs most of you probably know, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  In an effort to help promote awareness to the cause, I will be sponsoring an additional contest upon the release of my newest novel, DESPERATE HEARTS, which I am still hoping to release sometime during the month of October of this year.DH COVER 4_8.25.14

The winner of this new contest will receive several items promoting breast cancer awareness.

Below are a couple of pictures of some of the prizes I will be giving away.  Any items left over will be given away at my DESPERATE HEARTS SIP & SIGN book signing event which will be held at KEIGHLEY’S SALON, DAY SPA & BOUTIQUE.

 

 

 

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Although my number one goal is to write wholesome stories for your reading entertainment, I still try to focus on real-life issues.  Therefore, some of the subjects that my books cover include:  forgiveness, illness, death, marriage, separation, divorce, alcoholism, infidelity, trust, stepfamilies, and materialism.

LAMLIFE AFTER MOMMA is 15-year-old Kiara Murdock’s story of how she deals with the death of her beloved mother to breast cancer.  So many people have been affected by this terrible disease.  If you, a family member, or a close friend have, what has helped you to cope?  And what are some ways that you have been able to be a source of support and encouragement to the individual(s), their family, and others?  Please feel free to share your experiences–you never know how they might touch another person’s life and give them hope to endure.

Well, good night, and HAPPY READING!  As always, this is from my heart to yours.

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com


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MARRIAGE: THE EARLY YEARS VS. THE LATER YEARS

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“When I’m with him, I feel like I’m walking on clouds.”

“Every time I see her, my heart skips a beat.”

Sound familiar?  For those of us who have been in love or are in love, we can totally relate to the above sentiments.  When we meet that special someone and our hearts collide, we feel that there is nothing in the universe that can separate us from one another’s love.  In my book, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, this is exactly how newlywed Catina feels.  Now, consider a different scenario.

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“We have nothing in common anymore.  Instead of marriage mates, I feel like we’re cell mates.”

“I feel so lonely.  I may as well be single.”

Same two people–different thoughts.  What happened?  Answer:  They discovered that their mate isn’t the perfect person they initially saw through rose-tinted glasses.  And suddenly, the little idiosyncrasies they used to ignore about each other are now of gigantic proportion, absolutely annoying, and driving them insane.  This is the category that my older, long-time married couple Estelle and Roger of my book, THE BREAKING POINT, fall under.

While the Bible promotes a positive view of marriage (Proverbs 18:22), we should also expect problems within the marital arrangement.  This is because the Bible also presents a realistic view of marriage (1 Corinthians 7:28).  Therefore, there will be challenges.  One of the biggest challenges we should expect is conflict.  Since no two humans’ personalities are exactly alike, they will occasionally have conflicts no matter how compatible they are.  And because we’re all imperfect, they will even sometimes do and say unpleasant things to each other.  Misunderstandings and differences are bound to happen sooner or later.  So instead of being too quick to feel that they are no longer compatible, perhaps they should try to deal with their incompatibilities in a loving way.  In the end, if things still don’t work out, at least they’ll know that they put forth their best efforts.

From my heart to yours,

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com