MAXINE BILLINGS, Photographer & Author

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WHEN A SPOUSE HAS SPECIAL NEEDS

Image“I, _____, take you, _____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” 

 

In my novel, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, newlyweds Catina and Darryl are confronted with one of the greatest challenges they will ever face as a couple.

Marriage is challenging enough as it is, but when one mate becomes critically ill, the stress for both spouses can bring on a whole number of other difficulties.  Sadly, some marriages don’t survive the stress.  Even though only one mate is sick, both are deeply affected, although in very different ways.  When God established the family arrangement, He said that the man and the woman would become one flesh.  So what does this mean for the couple in this situation?

Most people love being independent, and there’s not a thing in the world wrong with that.  All of us, if it’s within our power and ability, should strive to take care of ourselves.  But wouldn’t you agree that no matter who we are, at some point in our lives, we are going to need someone (whether or not we want to admit it)?  This is when interdependence comes into play.  Sometimes we have to depend on others to help us.  And if it is a legitimate need, there is nothing wrong with that.  But if we are used to doing most things for ourselves, that might be a hard pill to swallow.

It may also be hard for one or both mates to keep a positive outlook.  Dwelling too much on the past and how good or different things used to be can weaken our resolve to make the best of the situation we’ve been dealt.  It’s okay to have your pity party every now and then if you need to, but try not to stay at the party too long (because if you do, you’ll miss out on all the other wonderful things life has to offer).  Try to find delight in even the smallest of things and strive to continue raising each other up.  Even in such a trying situation, happiness is still possible.  And if the joy seems to be lost, do everything within your power to find it.

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com

 

    

     

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PARENTS JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND, OR MAYBE THEY DO

Young ones, do you often feel that your parents just don’t understand you? In my first young adult novel, LIFE AFTER MOMMA, that’s exactly how Kiara feels about her dad. It’s a normal and natural thing to want to be understood–even older ones have that desire–and it can be extremely frustrating when the things that you love and feel are important just don’t seem to matter to anyone else, especially the people who gave you life and should know and understand you better than anyone else on the planet.

Parents, do you sometimes feel that your children view you as their #1 enemy? Every time you zig, they zag, and conditions at home just aren’t as peaceful as when they were younger and you still had some control over them? Instead of loosening your grip gradually, you continue to hold on for dear life because you’re afraid of all that might go wrong if you allow them even the smallest measure of freedom and independence?

Well, the next time there’s a disagreement between you, do you think it would help you to understand each other better if you took the time to sit down and talk? Not ranting, raving, yelling, and screaming but calm, respectful communication.

Parents, reflect on what it’s like to be young. And young ones, try to remember that your parents were once young, too–and maybe they do understand because they’ve been where you are now.

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com