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MALE MENOPAUSE?

manDo men go through menopause?  Unlike their female counterparts, some men are less likely to go to a doctor when they are sick or to seek preventive health care.  But is there such a thing as male menopause?  Hormone changes are a natural part of aging regardless of the person’s gender.  While the changes that women experience during menopause are more dramatic and occur during a relatively short period of time, sex hormone changes in men appear more gradually over a period of many years.  And while there are also other terms to refer to so-called male menopause, many doctors call it “andropause.”  So, what are some of the symptoms a man going through this stage of life might experience?

  • Sexual Function Changes which might include reduced sexual desire and erectile dysfunction.
  • Sleep Pattern Changes such as insomnia or increased sleepiness.
  • Various Physical Changes consisting of increased body fat, reduced muscle bulk and strength, and loss of body hair.  Although rare, might also include having less energy and experiencing hot flashes.
  • Emotional Changes like feeling sad or depressed and having trouble concentrating or remembering things.

Women are usually more apt to openly discuss with their doctors exactly what they are feeling and the changes their bodies are undergoing in any given situation.  We like to talk about what is bothering us.  Some men, on the other hand, tend to internalize their emotions and may be reluctant to seek medical help, let alone to actually be honest with their doctor (or perhaps anyone else) regarding what they are experiencing.  In THE BREAKING POINT, Roger refused to communicate with his wife Estelle about some of his deeply-rooted feelings.  Darryl, of IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, did speak with his wife Catina about how he felt but in ways that were dogmatic and pessimistic .  ISAIHBoth men had to learn to overcome their own idiosyncrasies in order regain a sense of peace and normalcy in their lives.

TBPThe Scriptures say at Genesis 2:24 that when a man and a woman marry, they become one flesh.  Yet 1 Peter 3:7 and Ephesians 5:21-33 help us to appreciate that both are unique in their own special ways and are still considered as individuals.  Therefore, while they are extremely different, they should also be united in their efforts to keep their marriage honorable, to be each other’s rock (even when they don’t always understand what the other is going through), and to maintain harmony to the extent possible.

So as women, may we keep in mind that we are not the only ones who experience changes in life–the men we love do so as well–and it is up to both genders to help pave the way so that the transition is not more turbulent than it has to be.

HAPPY READING!  And as always, this is from my heart to yours,

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com

(Photo Of Man Courtesy Of Office.com Clip Art)

 

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WHEN A SPOUSE HAS SPECIAL NEEDS

Image“I, _____, take you, _____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” 

 

In my novel, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, newlyweds Catina and Darryl are confronted with one of the greatest challenges they will ever face as a couple.

Marriage is challenging enough as it is, but when one mate becomes critically ill, the stress for both spouses can bring on a whole number of other difficulties.  Sadly, some marriages don’t survive the stress.  Even though only one mate is sick, both are deeply affected, although in very different ways.  When God established the family arrangement, He said that the man and the woman would become one flesh.  So what does this mean for the couple in this situation?

Most people love being independent, and there’s not a thing in the world wrong with that.  All of us, if it’s within our power and ability, should strive to take care of ourselves.  But wouldn’t you agree that no matter who we are, at some point in our lives, we are going to need someone (whether or not we want to admit it)?  This is when interdependence comes into play.  Sometimes we have to depend on others to help us.  And if it is a legitimate need, there is nothing wrong with that.  But if we are used to doing most things for ourselves, that might be a hard pill to swallow.

It may also be hard for one or both mates to keep a positive outlook.  Dwelling too much on the past and how good or different things used to be can weaken our resolve to make the best of the situation we’ve been dealt.  It’s okay to have your pity party every now and then if you need to, but try not to stay at the party too long (because if you do, you’ll miss out on all the other wonderful things life has to offer).  Try to find delight in even the smallest of things and strive to continue raising each other up.  Even in such a trying situation, happiness is still possible.  And if the joy seems to be lost, do everything within your power to find it.

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com