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COPING WITH DISABILITIES

WHEELCHAIR ATHLETEAs I write this post, I’m typing it with the fingers of only one hand, and it is extremely difficult and frustrating.  I’m tempted to try to get the fingers of my left hand to assist those of my right.  Why am I only using one hand?  Am I performing an experiment of some sort?  I wish that was the case.  I’m doing it because I have to.  Being a secretary for almost 34 years before retiring several months ago, in addition to starting my writing career in 1999, have left me with a sensation in my left hand that feels as though I have carpal tunnel.  My left pinkie finger is numb which is making it difficult for me to use my left hand; therefore, I’m trying to rest it while also intermittently exercising my fingers.  It is extremely frustrating not being able to use both of my hands like I normally do in the way I’m accustomed to.  So this got me to thinking about how defeated a person must feel (especially, initially) when some part of his body is unable to function the way it should.

There is a passage in the Bible at 1 Corinthians 12:14-26 that says the body is not made up of one member but many.  It goes on to help us to appreciate that even the body parts that are seemingly weaker are still necessary and all should have mutual concern for one another–because if one of them suffers, all the others suffer with it, and if one of them is glorified, all the others rejoice with it.  Of course, this is an illustration comparing each follower of Christ with each individual member of the body.  But all the same, just as we as humans need each other, each member of our body also needs the other.

ISAIHIn my book, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, Darryl has to learn to come to terms with his sudden and unexpected disability.  You know, sometimes it’s hard for us to understand what a person is going through until we have to take a walk in their shoes.  Until I recently started having this nagging feeling of paralysis in my finger, I only had a very limited idea in my imagination of how a person in this situation might feel.  But now, having personally experienced it on a very minute level (compared to what so many others are facing), I finally have an even greater higher regard for them and the everyday struggles they face–but more importantly, I have a deeper appreciation and admiration of how they have refused to let their disability handicap them more than it perhaps already has.  So, to them, I would like to say, “Thank you so much for being such an illustrious beacon of light to the world, and especially to those of us who may at times take for granted that we still have full use of all of our body members.  You are truly an inspiration!”

HAPPY READING!  And as always, this is from my heart to yours.

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com

 

(Wheelchair Athlete Photo-Courtesy of Office.com Clip Art)


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WHEN A SPOUSE HAS SPECIAL NEEDS

Image“I, _____, take you, _____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” 

 

In my novel, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, newlyweds Catina and Darryl are confronted with one of the greatest challenges they will ever face as a couple.

Marriage is challenging enough as it is, but when one mate becomes critically ill, the stress for both spouses can bring on a whole number of other difficulties.  Sadly, some marriages don’t survive the stress.  Even though only one mate is sick, both are deeply affected, although in very different ways.  When God established the family arrangement, He said that the man and the woman would become one flesh.  So what does this mean for the couple in this situation?

Most people love being independent, and there’s not a thing in the world wrong with that.  All of us, if it’s within our power and ability, should strive to take care of ourselves.  But wouldn’t you agree that no matter who we are, at some point in our lives, we are going to need someone (whether or not we want to admit it)?  This is when interdependence comes into play.  Sometimes we have to depend on others to help us.  And if it is a legitimate need, there is nothing wrong with that.  But if we are used to doing most things for ourselves, that might be a hard pill to swallow.

It may also be hard for one or both mates to keep a positive outlook.  Dwelling too much on the past and how good or different things used to be can weaken our resolve to make the best of the situation we’ve been dealt.  It’s okay to have your pity party every now and then if you need to, but try not to stay at the party too long (because if you do, you’ll miss out on all the other wonderful things life has to offer).  Try to find delight in even the smallest of things and strive to continue raising each other up.  Even in such a trying situation, happiness is still possible.  And if the joy seems to be lost, do everything within your power to find it.

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com