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SECRET DATING

HOLDING HANDS

In LIFE AFTER MOMMA, Kiara is caught in a dilemma. The cutest and most popular boy in the entire school wants her to be his girlfriend. Her dilemma? She’s 16, and her dad has forbade her to date until she’s 17. She has two options: (1) obey her father and tell the boy no or (2) date the boy behind her father’s back. Which should she choose? Which will she choose? If you were in her situation, which would you opt to do?

How is it that some young people get caught up in the lure of secret dating? As is the case with Kiara, some do it because they know their parents won’t approve, so they decide to just do it and not tell them. Perhaps others do it as an act of rebellion, especially if they feel that they’re not being treated like the young adults they think they are. Therefore, they make the decision to do what they want and not tell their parents. This also plays a part in Kiara disobeying her father.

Two important questions that should be asked of oneself are: Where will my actions lead? and How will what I’m doing affect God and my family? In creating humans, God blessed us with the wonderful capacity to love and accept love from others. The intimacy that a husband and wife share with one another is a beautiful thing—it is one of His most precious gifts to us. (Proverbs 5:18 & 19) Therefore, it is to be used according to His instructions. Too, we must always remember that the decisions we make in life not only affect us—they also affect our Creator and others who love us and care about us. Admittedly, it’s tough sometimes to accept and understand these things when you’re young, particularly when you’re young and in love, but as you continue growing to maturity, you’ll get there.

So now, back to Kiara. If you’d like to know where her decisions and actions lead her, please read her story in LIFE AFTER MOMMA.

From my heart to yours,

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com
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DEALING WITH A PARENT’S REMARRIAGE

lImage The family is God’s arrangement.  He instituted it in the Garden of Eden when he gave the first woman Eve to the first man Adam (Genesis 2:22-24).   Although  a man and a woman’s union is to last forever, sometimes due to different circumstances, that is not the case.  Therefore, one or both may decide to remarry.  Being part of a stepfamily is all too common nowadays.  Although it can be stressful for the grown-ups involved, it can be especially upsetting for the children.

Being a teenager is one of the happiest and most exciting times of one’s life, but it can also be a time of emotional ups and downs.  And one of the things that can contribute to the low moments is the remarriage of one or both parents.  While some teens may be ecstatic at the thought of having a stepparent, others may feel jealous, betrayed, and insecure.  In LIFE AFTER MOMMA, Kiara feels the latter, and her loyalty to her deceased mother causes her to lash out at her father and his fiancée.  She resolves in her mind and heart that she will never come to like the woman and spends a great deal of time letting both adults know exactly that.  However, in doing so, she vents her emotional pain in some very destructive ways.

Are you part of a stepfamily?  If so, what are some things that can help you to cope, even if you have legitimate grounds for complaint?  First, recognize that your feelings are normal.  Second, remember that no family is perfect.  Third, keep in mind that meaningful, respectful communication is key in any relationship. 

And one last thing–be patient (with yourself and your stepfamily).  In time, the stepfamily you can’t stand today may just be the one you’ll eventually grow to love.

From my heart to yours,

Maxine

http://www.maxinebillings.com